Couch Surfing 101: 5 steps to creating a good host request (2022)

Now that the pandemic-related travel restrictions are all but lifted, travelers are again beginning to scratch their itch to get out and explore. This includes couch surfers who have begun to use couch surfing apps like to plan their accommodations.

For some of you, writing a request to stay with someone else is a new experience. For others, it may have been a while since sending your last one. Here are some hints to writing a good couch request that has a better chance of being accepted.

1. Use their name!

One of the most alarming trends that hosts have complained about (even back in the days of the couch surfing site that shall not be named) is that they receive couch requests that are so obviously generic and the prospective guest doesn’t even bother to greet them by name. Or worse, they copy-paste the request with someone else’s name on it. I read, “Hi Victoria!” but my name is Jim. 😑

Sure, it may not be feasible to write a completely original couch request for each prospective host, but at least take a minute to address the person by their name!

2. Read their profile

Hosts are individuals. They have different circumstances, likes/dislikes, schedules, and so on. If they have filled out details about themselves and their homes, it’s because they want guests to know this information to make for a better experience. If a host doesn’t allow smoking, and you’re a heavy smoker, this is important to know up front. If they mention that they have traveled to your country in the past, or other places where you have been, then that’s common ground to build on.

3. State why you’d like to stay with them

To many hosts, a request that simply says that a guest is coming and wants to stay for a certain number of nights and says nothing about why the guest is requesting to stay with them, is regarded as insulting. Hosts are not running hotels or hostels for the convenience of travelers. We signed up for this to have interaction with like-minded travelers. Mention something specific that you read in their profile (see #2) that you appreciate about them. This can start the bonding process.

4. Include information about yourself (fill out your profile)

Hotels, hostels, AirBnb hosts don’t really care about your personality, your hobbies, or your previous travels. They are simply about the monetary transaction. It’s not that your hosts are nosy, but they would like to know who you are, what you like, and get an idea of whether you would be a good fit or not before they accept your request. Don’t make them ask a lot of questions. This is also why it’s crucial to fill out your own profile. You can refer to that when making the request.

5. Clearly state your intentions

Hosts are often busy people with jobs and social lives. If you don’t give them specific dates that you wish to stay, or include some information about what you are planning to do during your stay, it’s difficult for them to know if they can accommodate you. If you plan to go clubbing in their city until the wee hours, it may interfere with their sleep to let you in when you finish. Or, maybe they would like to join you, but that’s best decided beforehand.

Staying with hospitable strangers and hosting travelers can form lasting relationships. But these must be built on trust. The first step of that trust may be simply writing a good couch request.

Any more questions?

Head on over to the forum and ask! The couch surfing community is one of the most friendly and open there is, and people will be more than happy to answer any questions you may have!

Written by Bob. Published on 2022/09/20

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